Men’s Circles

Would you like to connect with other men in a way where we go beyond superficial conversations, and we welcome depth and feelings? Then you are most welcome at the men’s circle!

Unfortunately, in our general society there is often little room for vulnerability among men. We have fun together, watch sports and drink a beer. But the depth and space to talk about feelings is often lacking, while especially that can actually be extremely beautiful and healing!

During the men’s circle we create a safe space for each other to be vulnerable in the presence of other men. There is space to share and to provide each other with feedback and support. In this way, we create deep connections and help each other to get closer to ourselves. This produces a deep connection and true brotherhood with each other.

We start the evening with a short meditation to land and get in touch with ourselves. Then we open the space to share freely. This could be something you’re concerned about, something you want advice on, or even a ‘success’ you want to share and be proud of. The focus is always on one person at a time and only when one person’s sharing is completed, there is room for the next person to share.

The walk-in is from 19:30 and we close at 22:00. The maximum amount of participants is 10. We start with the meditation at the latest at 19:45, so please make sure you arrive before that time!

For this evening I ask for a contribution of € 15,-

Guidelines for the men’s circle:

– Take responsibility for your own feelings, thoughts and actions.

– Confidentiality: What is discussed in the men’s circle stays within the group. Of course you can share things about your own experiences outside the group, but don’t talk about the other men from the group.

– You can share something, but this is not an obligation. There is space to share everything you want, but if that doesn’t feel right during the evening, you may also just listen and offer support for others. That can also have a very nice and healing effect!

– You can choose to simply share something and leave it at that, or you can choose to be open to feedback and questions, so that there could be even more depth.

– When you share something, own your story. You can do this, for example, by continuing to talk in the “I”-person. We often tend to create distance by talking in the “you” form. So rather not “When this happens to you, it does something to you.”, but instead “When this happens to me, it does something to me.”.

– When sharing, try to stay with your feelings and emotions. Often we men tend to rationalise everything and talk from the head, but it is just so healing to really stay with the feeling and emotion.

– Listen empathetically to the others. Often we tend to relate the story of the other back to ourselves and then get the urge to share our own (similar, preferably slightly stronger) story in response. Be aware of this and ask yourself “Am I sharing this to help the other person, or am I simply using the other person for input for my own story?” In the latter case, it is better to wait until it’s your turn to share your story and keep the focus on who is sharing in that moment.

Upcoming dates:

• Wednesday 28th of June 19:30-22:00 at InnEssence Retreat Centre, Stokershorst.